I hoped Charlotte would go to critical care rehab and then long term care. I imagined when she went to long term care I would visit. I would stay at the guesthouse overnight at the hospital since it's a long trip. I would play music and sing. We would watch TV. I would read to her. I would style her hair. One day she would speak to me.
Charlotte had lots of friends but she had lost touch with them because of living in Denver for ten years. Will there be funeral services? She once told me that when this day came her wish was to be cremated and her ashes scattered at a seawall we liked to sit on at Biscayne Bay.
The plan is to cremate her but I'm afraid this may spin out of control as far as cost. I was not told about my sister's death, and the terms I'm on with her son are unnerving enough that I was afraid of running into him. I'm not invited to my sister's funeral.
I'm concerned about her son, "The Tater Tot." I asked my mother if she planned to take food over to him. Food? This seemed like an odd question to her. "It's often done that people take food to people who have lost a loved one...." "I think that is to feed all the people that show up at the funeral..." OK. And maybe the fact that sometimes bereaved people are too distracted to figure meals out for themselves.
My brother and my sister have been magnanimous to send $1000 each toward funeral expenses. They aren't going to come here though.
The Tater Tot arranged for her body to be shipped from the hospital, 90 miles. Well, that sounds like my brother's idea. An uncollected body would have been cremated by the hospital by a nearby crematorium. And even if my siblings paid for cremation, it could have been done there and the ashes shipped here. Even a cremation can cost thousands of dollars.
I asked my mother to get an itemized bill from the funeral home before she pays them any money. Even though I've told her this several times, her plan was to pay any amount they asked and ask for an itemized bill after that.
Hubert Giraud Mamy blue - YouTube
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